Steve Christiaens died at 1 p.m. on Christmas Eve last year. Hospice nurse Jolene Wilkinson was at his bedside in 15 minutes.
"This is what hospice nurses do," says Glenda Christiaens, his wife and an associate professor at the . "I don't know what she dropped to get there. But she just took over—calling the funeral home, doing anything that needed to be done. And I could just sit and say farewell. I didn't have to worry."
Over the four months of Steve Christiaens' hospice care, his wife and his nurse forged an intangible bond – personal and profound, but still professional. On Monday night (May 9), Christiaens and Wilkinson's employer, Solstice Home ÈËÆÞÖгöÊÓƵ, Hospice and Palliative Care, will recognize her along with nearly 200 other Utah nurses at the Honors for Nursing gala at Little America Hotel.
The gathering was started 22 years ago by alumni of the College of Nursing to recognize the state's extraordinary nurses.
"From an event that first began in the basement of the college building, Honors for Nursing has grown to become a wonderful opportunity for Utahns to recognize the nurses around the state who provide such critical care for the sick and most vulnerable among us," says Melanie Osterud, advancement director for the college.
At the same event, longtime will receive the Dare to Care Award, which highlights a nurse who has "gone above and beyond the call of duty to make a difference in the lives of others."
Hutton, a psych/mental health nurse, has taught at the college for more than 40 years and was pivotal in establishing Utah's chapter of the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. For more than 20 years, she has led group grief counseling sessions for the college's Caring Connections Program.
"Ann's students really see her walking the walk," says Katherine Supiano, Caring Connections director. "When she teaches, she can teach from the examples of patients she saw last night."
recognizes the work of nurses from each of Utah's four main health care organizations – Intermountain ÈËÆÞÖгöÊÓƵcare, IASIS ÈËÆÞÖгöÊÓƵcare, MountainStar ÈËÆÞÖгöÊÓƵcare and ÈËÆÞÖгöÊÓƵ of Utah ÈËÆÞÖгöÊÓƵ Care – as well as individual nurses honored by their colleagues and bosses. Solstice Home ÈËÆÞÖгöÊÓƵ also is a "Champions of Nursing" sponsor this year.
"At the end of life, things can get scary," says Amy Hartman, Solstice CEO. "It's important to have someone you know who's going to be accountable to you, to comfort your fears, and help you through one of the most difficult times of your or your loved one's lives."
For Christiaens, it was important to recognize the steady hand of the hospice nurse who walked her through her husband's dying process.
Steve Christiaens was diagnosed with bladder cancer at 64 years old, in March 2015. He quickly had two rounds of chemotherapy, but the cancer had spread. By September, he was in hospice.
Hospice presents a unique challenge for nurse family members, Glenda Christiaens says. Most people expect them to be able to—to want to—do the caregiving. But Christiaens says she wanted to be Steve's wife, not his nurse. Besides the physical care she provided, including healing touch and music therapy, Christiaens says Wilkinson's calm presence and quirky humor provided the backup she needed to simply focus on her husband of 39 years.
"She gave me words of wisdom that helped a lot," Christiaens says. "She would tell me things that would get me through the week."
Wilkinson remembered the grandkids' names, which kitchen drawer the spoons were in.
"When she was there, it was just like family. I could completely relax," Christiaens adds. "I could say anything and she was never judgmental--ever. When Jolene was in the house, everyone was happy."
And she did all of it while keeping a professional boundary. The first time Wilkinson and Christiaens hugged was right after Steve's death. They met briefly for the first time since his death early in April. But on Monday, they will sit together at Honors for Nursing.